A widower has 5 kids, he's very poor and his means of lively hood is being a bricklayer. He toils day and night to provide for his kids and sends them all to school and puts food on the table. There's another man somewhere, a random bus driver with a wife and kids. Just like the bricklayer he sweats and toils all day to provide for the family and puts food on the table, but guess what, no one gives a rats ass and no one celebrates them.

Let's reverse the roles. A single mother of 5 works as a bricklayer to provide for her 5 kids and sends them to school. Or, a married woman who has 3 kids is seen driving a commercial bus and making ends meet, they'd probably end up on instablog9ja with the whole Nigeria praising them for providing for their family and doing what A MAN is meant to do. *echoes* DOING WHAT A MAN IS MEANT TO DO.


IS THE NIGERIAN GOD OMNIPRESENT?

Gender roles. I'd define it but I'm assuming my readers are sophisticated enough to know what it means. If we're being real and we drop the cloak of being 'fake woke', Men are meant to provide and women belong in the kitchen. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying her only job is to cook and clean, I mean when it comes to providing and protecting the man should do it and when it comes to nurturing and cooking the woman should do it. Even though we all act like these aren't true and meant to be, we praise women who are the breadwinners and women praise men who happen to be good cooks. Notice how nobody cares if a woman cooks well? That's because deep down we expect her to be able to cook and we scold women who don't know how to cook but we don't scold men. Same way when a woman is the breadwinner of the house, we praise them and even though the husband is trying to help her we still look down on him and look at him like less of a man.

DOES MARRIAGE REDUCE THE BEAUTY OF THE NIGERIAN WOMAN?

No matter how Woke and Feminist we all claim to be, deep down we still follow the rules of gender roles and gender roles are the biggest enemy of feminism. If you look down on a 'House husband' whose wife is the breadwinner while he does the cooking, cleaning and other stuff house wifes do, then it means you believe and follow gender roles. And, if you follow gender roles then it means you're not a feminist. You can shout on twitter and talk about feminist and equity and whatnot but if you scold a woman who always gives her man money and provides for him, you should take a seat and keep 'Kwayet', because if reverse was the role and you saw a man providing for his housewife while she took care of the home, you wouldn't flinch or bat an eyelash.

OUR FATHERS WERE RIGHT, NEVER GO FOR A GIRL BECAUSE OF BEAUTY